Why It’s Important to Date Your Husband
Just because you’re married, that doesn’t mean you should stop dating! Here’s why it’s important to continue to date your husband.
There was a time several years ago when my husband and I were really struggling. Of course we still loved each other, but we were finding it difficult to really like each other.
In the unromantic daily grind of bills and meals and messes, all we could see were flaws. We felt irritated with each other constantly. We looked at each other and wondered how we got here.
Who was this person anyway? Where was that sweet person I married?
Around that same time, we had planned a night away by ourselves (something I highly recommend if you can make it work!).
The location was a few hours away, so we had time to talk.
It was a bit stiff at first, but as the miles wore on, we enjoyed a wonderful conversation together. With no interruptions!
During the next 24 hours, I saw the man I had married. He was still there. He had been there all along!
Why You Should Date Your Husband
That quick overnight trip did wonders for our marriage.
We had both been so caught up in the struggle to make it through the chaos and everyday stresses that we didn’t even recognize each other.
But getting away together pulled back the veil and revealed who we really were—two people who were still deeply in love.
Even though we returned to the same daily duties, we felt a renewed sense of strength in our love and commitment to each other.
Whether you can swing an overnight trip or you’re limited to weekly at-home dates, it’s important to date your husband.
Maintaining a regular weekly (or every-other-week) date night is a valuable marriage builder. Even once a month would be better than nothing!
Recently, I read an article about how date nights aren’t necessary for a healthy marriage. I agree that they’re not an absolute necessity.
You can still have a happy marriage without regular date nights away from home.
Redefining Date Night
I think the important thing is having time set aside to pour into your marriage and invest in the relationship.
You don’t even need to leave the house to do that.
We count simple things as “date night.” Things like watching a movie together in our room, talking after the kids are in bed, or sitting in bed reading. We love those simple times together.
But sometimes, getting away and spending time together in a new and different location can work wonders.
And when you have kids, sometimes getting away (even for a few hours) can help you focus on each other more intently without interruption.
Personally, my husband and I have more at-home date nights than date nights out on the town.
But our goal (especially as our children get older) is to incorporate more special date nights together. And the occasional overnight or weekend date is something we look forward to.
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Do you schedule a weekly date night with your husband? Do you go out or stay home?
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What a great post! A lot of marriages will be happier if people follow your advice. I think what works great is to find another couple to alternate babysitting, so each couple can have a date night without the extra expense of paying for a babysitter.
Great suggestion, Diane!
Great encouragement! Having time with my husband to unwind and have important and sometimes not-so-important conversations are what keeps me going. I am a talker and I need to have that time with him. Thanks for sharing at #SittingAmongFriends! Blessings to you and your family!
Thank you, Jaime! I agree, that conversation time together is essential! Blessings to you also!
This is such a lovely post and makes me long for the times my husband and I used to do the same things you mentioned above; watching a movie together in our room, sitting up talking after the kids have gone to bed … something, anything, so the two of us could reconnect.
I have to find more creative ways to have that time with him now, his health issues have stolen him away from me; cherish those moments with your husband, in the blink of an eye things can change.
I am visiting you today from Strangers and Pilgrims link up. God bless you
Thank you, Jennifer! I’m so sorry your husband is suffering with health issues. I know that’s so hard. We’ve had so many times in our marriage where we were just in survival mode due to the health issues of one or both of us, and it is just hard and discouraging, especially if it’s something long-term. Saying a prayer for you and your husband. ♥
Thanks, Joy, for this post. I have chosen to feature it in this week’s Grace and truth. Be sure to stop by my site Friday to get the “I was featured” button for your post.
Thanks so much for featuring my post, Aimee! 🙂
That looks like a great read! I’m gonna have to add it to my ever-growing list!
We love this book! I’m with you on the ever-growing book list! 🙂
Joy, you are so right that while date nights might not be a necessity, spending time connecting to each other in some way is vital. We frequently recommend date nights as homework when my husband and I are counseling couples. We define a date as two hours doing something you enjoy without the kids. We often suggest that couples take turns planning something (it doesn’t have to cost money or involve leaving the house). They’re to plan it with what the other one in mind. Thanks for sharing. Blessings to you and your husband.
I love your definition of a date, Donna! That’s very helpful to remember! 🙂
Joy, we are clearly thinking in the same lane this week— i just posted about the importance of having fun in your marriage 😉 Totally agree with your points here… when our kids were young, we were intentional about “dates” even if it meant a romantic dinner at home once the kids were in bed or coffee and cake on the deck uninterrupted! So glad I came across your post at #FaithFilledFriday 🙂
So glad you stopped by to visit, Laura! I love the idea of coffee and cake on the deck! 🙂
Great points here so thanks for sharing! I’m motivated to pursue my man with some quality time
Thank you, Gretchen!