If there was one question that could change your life forever, would you want to know what it was? Of course you would! Today I’m going to share that all-important question with you.
A Question That Could Change Your Life
So often, we find ourselves just going through the motions of life, day after day, not really thinking about the future.
But what happens when we come to our later years and realize we could have been more intentional?
What happens if we look back and have regrets?
That’s where goal setting and planning for the future comes in.
I’m old enough now that I do have some regrets. There have been things in my life that I wasn’t as careful to consider and plan.
Or in some cases I had a plan (sometimes even a really good plan), but I didn’t implement it effectively enough.
That’s where the life-changing question comes in. If I would have known about this question earlier in life, I think it would have improved my results in some areas.
This one question changed how I view goal setting, and impacted the way I view my entire life!
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The Question That Changed Everything for Me
So what is this life-altering question?
Simply this:
How do you want to be remembered? When you die, how will those closest to you remember you?
We’re beginning with the end in mind, thinking about where we want to end up eventually.
And that allows us to make plans today that will help us become the person we want to be, and to do the things that are important to us.
This process helps us design a life worth living, and leave a legacy for our loved ones and friends. A legacy that will positively impact those we love.
This quote, from Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy (from this book) sums up the importance of leaving an intentional legacy:
Like it or not, your life now shapes your legacy then. You have an impact on everyone around you. You will influence the course of other people’s lives for good or for bad. In other words, your life matters. You are here for a reason. Your job is to determine why.The good news is that you can shape the memories of the people who matter most to you. The thoughts, words, and actions you choose will have an impact.
Live With the End in Mind
Now, when I sit down to do my annual goal planning, I always keep this question in mind: How do you want to be remembered when you die?
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It helps me stay focused on what really matters. And what really matters are the things that are eternal.
When you ask yourself the question that could change your life, you will gain clarity on how you really want to live.
And that clarity will help you plan out your day-to-day activities, so that you’re constantly moving toward your goals.
How Do You Want to Be Remembered?
As I thought about how I would like to be remembered, these are some of the things that came to mind:
- loving
- kind
- compassionate
- giving
- encouraging
- affirming and full of life-giving words of praise and gratitude
- positive
- cheerful
- fun
- diligent
- faithful
- hospitable
- generous
As I look through this list, I can see what I need to focus on. Once you have a vision of how you want to be remembered, this book leads you through the process of writing your eulogy.
At first this may seem a bit morbid, but if you really want to live with intention, creating a beautiful legacy, it makes so much sense.
You have to think about the future in order to live intentionally today.
Write your eulogy (how you want to be remembered and what you want to be said about you after you’re gone), and then proceed to live in such a way that you will truly become that person.
Create the memories you want others to have of you.
When we are gone, the only essential thing we will leave behind are the memories we create in the lives of those we have touched and those we love. The cool thing is that we have the opportunity to engineer those now. We don’t have to leave them to chance. We can be intentional about creating them. —Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy
Resources for Intentional Living
If you’d like more guidance for creating an intentional, beautiful life, I recommend these helpful resources.
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Cheryl Gerou says
January 14, 2020 at 9:15 amSuch an encouraging post! This is a question we all need to contemplate. The answers we come up with can surely change how we live now! Thanks so much for sharing!
Joy Kincaid says
January 14, 2020 at 10:43 pmSo glad it was encouraging! Thanks for stopping by, Cheryl!
charmaine macdonald says
January 13, 2020 at 2:53 pmI love this, intentional living, very good food for thought, thanks for sharing this valuable information with us!
Valerie Murray says
November 10, 2017 at 9:11 amAfter recently losing a friend who I remember by his joyful smile and deep love for God and his family-it made me think of this same question. How will I be remembered? It really puts into perspective some things I would want to work on in my life.
Joy Kincaid says
November 11, 2017 at 2:46 pmI’m so sorry for the loss of your friend. I agree, that question really puts things into perspective.
Amanda says
December 31, 2015 at 3:28 amDear Joy,
You'll remember me from my old blog several years ago and I'm sorry it has taken me this long to catch up with you. Like Leanne, over four years I've cleared a lot of blogs from my reader while only keeping the very godly and inspiring ones. And even then I don't comment much because I'm on the road to learning to be meek and quiet:-) Not easy for a chatty girl like myself.
But tonight dear kindred soul, I had to comment on what a refreshing and uplifting post this was. Very agreeable to me and so very true.
Looking forward to reconnecting with you:-)
Happy New Year!
Joy Kincaid says
December 31, 2015 at 3:43 amSo good to hear from you, Amanda!!! I've missed you! I hope you and your family are doing well.
Thank you so much for the encouragement, and I hope you have a Happy New Year also!
Sara says
December 31, 2015 at 2:19 amA great question to ask oneself that really puts things in perspective. What really matters in life? Sometimes I can let the day to day things bother me too much and I have to look at the bigger picture. Thanks for the encouraging post!
Joy Kincaid says
December 31, 2015 at 3:20 amI tend to forget what's most important and get stuck on the insignificant things…that's why this question really helped me. So glad you stopped by, Sara!
Leanne says
December 31, 2015 at 12:48 amI cleared a lot of my blog reads the last couple of days because I've resolved to quit comparing myself and measuring myself against the achievements and purposes of others… Your blog resonates with my heart! we've had two very, very close friends face death in two very different ways… but, in both instances they each said it was a gift– because the important stuff was FINALLY important and the unimportant– didn't even register… can't wait to hear your word… 🙂
Joy Kincaid says
December 31, 2015 at 2:05 amI'm so glad you decided to continue reading here, Leanne! 🙂 I know how hard it can be to get stuck in that comparison trap—I've struggled with that too.